Wednesday, November 16, 2011

(Not) Progress Report

Noah's progress report came home today.

As Rich said, it could be worse. It could be all "not meeting goals" and "unsatisfactory."

I hate this feeling that I get. Defeat. 

I don't know what else to do for Noah as far as his education. I don't know how to teach him. I think the school is trying. I think they have his best interests in mind. I just don't think they are the right place for him. 

I do homework with him every day, and he struggles with anything involving reasoning, or thinking through a problem. He has his math facts down fine. He does great with his spelling lists. He can remember details from two or three years ago. Of course they are details that have nothing to do with what we are working on.

We are studying for a science test on Friday. I can ask him a question, guide him to the correct answer, then ask him a different question, then go back to the first question, and he doesn't know the answer any more. I think this is typical FASD learning. So why am I the only one that sees it as a problem? 

Of course I don't know what to do to help him, even if everyone else does recognize it.

I don't know how to help my child with a learning disability! I don't know how to work with a child that doesn't learn easily and quickly the way I did. I'm frustrated.

I can't help but think what the next years of school are going to be like for him. I know he is not "stupid," but I'm afraid he is going to think he is stupid (if he doesn't already). How do I make him understand it is because his brain works differently, but not let him think of it as an excuse not to try?

Yes, we have bright spots, like I wrote about the other day. But he can't make a living playing soccer. 

Monday is his parent-teacher conference. I dread it.



  1. Wow it sounds like a tough day. I am sorry that you feel so frustrated.
    I feel this way today too my son is in the 5th grade and we have been working with the schools to set up a 504 IEP whatever. Today I get the report. They are making recommendation but the are not concerned with his spelling or that his hand writing is horrible they will just give him a computer. (he currently cant finish anything during class and they are thinking ADD and I am dreading meeting the teacher also.. so I feel your pain abd hugs to you. I hope something get better soon.

  2. I think it is not the conference you are dreading so much, as it is coming face to face with Noah's many disabilities. If most of his report card is about not meeting goals, then the school needs to figure out what needs to be done differently, so that Noah can learn.FASD kids usually have behavior difficulties, but always need to be taught differently.

  3. what about doing test modification for him... having a teacher orally administer a test and help him reason through to the correct answer.