On a far more serious topic, we received a phone call today from a social worker from the Jewish community center my mother in law goes to. She was concerned because people have been complaining about my MIL. Apparently her neighbors have been complaining that she is knocking on their door at all hours of the night and that her personal hygiene is poor. Her friends at the center have been complaining she is bothering them and acting strangely. It was shocking to hear this. We see her almost every week and she is always meticulously dressed and made up. And her apartment is always clean.
We thought we had a little longer before we were going to have to move her to a nursing home, but if these "complaints" are true, it may be time now. Rich will talk with the social worker tomorrow and we will set up a family meeting. Always a good time dealing with Rich's brother and his wife. Not.
I joke about my MIL being crazy, but really, I feel sorry for her. I know this is very difficult for her. She knows her mind isn't working right, although I don't think she's ever really grasped that she has Alzheimer's. Actually, I'm not sure anyone has ever come out and told her.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
wow if this is the path you have to go down...then many hugs to you...it is a hard road no matter what you choose...I am dealing with my g'ma aka ena who needs more care than what she has BUT I have an uncle who doesnt compute and my daddy welll my dad is undergoin chemo and is in NO state to make these kinda decisions...it is heart breaking...
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Ugh - I'm sorry about your MIL. It is strange to hear the night/day situations like that, and knowing there's not much you personally can do (short of being with them 24/7). I hope you can find a good solutions for her and you guys!
ReplyDeleteOk, Kristine, the things your heart has to deal with! You're going to do what's best for her health and her safety. I hope you feel good about the decisions you have to make, I know you have her absolute best interests in mind.
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I'm sorry Katt. I know that right now the last thing you need is one more thing on your plate. I've never known anyone with Alzheimers though I know it must be ver sad, tragic and scary all rolled in to one.
ReplyDeleteDo what you can for her, by making her comfortable and safe.
I'll be thinking about you today.
I am sorry you are having to deal with such a tough situation. It must be incredibly hard on not only you, but your husband too. I hope that it all works out for the best.
ReplyDeleteI pray this transition goes smoothly for you and your family. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
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ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear about your MIL. Alzheimers is so hard on everyone. I hope that your family will find the best solution for everyone involved.
Blog looks great!
ReplyDeleteAlzheimer is so hard to deal with. My husbands grandfather would call the police and tell them some strange woman (his wife) had broken into his house. He would also wander around town and not know how to get home. It was very sad. I hope you find a good solution for all.
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Oh boy. What a difficult thing you are having to go through. I wish you all the luck in this situation.
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Wow... best wishes on this situation. I remember what we went through with my mother - the sisters are just now speaking again.
ReplyDeleteHugs and good thoughts for your family.
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