tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post3973326069698850819..comments2023-09-20T03:45:25.246-04:00Comments on Mommy Needs Therapy...or a bottle of wine.: From my guest blogger - Mother and daughters, the drama, oh my!Kristinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15401725929395230941noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-85136177763249135932008-08-30T21:15:00.000-04:002008-08-30T21:15:00.000-04:00I'm so excited to see all these comments! It's gr...I'm so excited to see all these comments! It's great to know there are women out there that have good relationships with their mom's. It's also nice to know that I'm not the only one with a fucked up mom-daughter relationship.<BR/><BR/>Some interesting posts to come next week about my visit back to the ol' family farm. I'll just give you a little tease that we ended up coming home two days Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15401725929395230941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-45511383453815025182008-08-30T12:58:00.000-04:002008-08-30T12:58:00.000-04:00Deb you are such a great writer! My mom and I foug...Deb you are such a great writer! My mom and I fought a lot when I was younger, but now that I'm older we get along so much better. I think she resented sometimes the fact that I had more than she did growing up. More opportunities, etc. She had 8 brothers and sisters and never got to go to college. I did and pissed their money away on partying. I think she really resented that (not that I blame Girl in Carolinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15862955873491545349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-90575104190001621712008-08-29T02:24:00.000-04:002008-08-29T02:24:00.000-04:00Thx. for sharing.my mom and i had our ups and our ...Thx. for sharing.<BR/><BR/>my mom and i had our ups and our downs. we moved from city to city together. she had a rough life but she had an angels heart when it came down to it. we were very different from one another yet quite similar. <BR/><BR/>i found that once you lose your mom it is the caring and gentle moments you will eventually carry with you and the bad times seem to eventually phaseUs4 Catshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11739127381541688361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-30010204325066908992008-08-28T19:17:00.000-04:002008-08-28T19:17:00.000-04:00Wow, very well said, Deb. My heart goes out to yo...Wow, very well said, Deb. My heart goes out to you. I wish it were different between you and your mom.<BR/><BR/>SaraSarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18396653040393467188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-30209860491882063222008-08-28T18:02:00.000-04:002008-08-28T18:02:00.000-04:00HAPPY BIRTHDAYHAPPY BIRTHDAYInsane Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13772208953959596713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-88720652096242917142008-08-28T18:01:00.000-04:002008-08-28T18:01:00.000-04:00My relationship with my mom is touchy. My relatio...My relationship with my mom is touchy. My relationship with my girls is fantastic, but I, like you lack the closeness with my son.Insane Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13772208953959596713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-50256473575985554812008-08-28T16:59:00.000-04:002008-08-28T16:59:00.000-04:00I KNEW IT!! I knew Jill would beat me to this.......I KNEW IT!! I knew Jill would beat me to this.....OK, JillJillBoBill...you won! But really, everything that she said is true about our Mom. We are TRUELY lucky to have her.amelia bedeliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18330802665397801131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-58524638445606737212008-08-28T13:27:00.000-04:002008-08-28T13:27:00.000-04:00My mom and I have had our fair share of fights, an...My mom and I have had our fair share of fights, and I think deep down inside, she was jealous of my priviledged growing up as compared to her poorer, tougher growing up.<BR/><BR/>When I got pregnant at nineteen, my mother insisted I get married, or else put my baby up for adoption. She picked out my wedding dress, planned everything without consulting me;etc. Ever since, she has been trying to Laurie of the Seven Storieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16260975589975026420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-6469438713947752762008-08-28T13:06:00.000-04:002008-08-28T13:06:00.000-04:00Heh, heh, I found you...you can't hide from me! H...Heh, heh, I found you...you can't hide from me! Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday DDDDeeeebbbb, Happy Birthday to you. Thank ya, thank ya very much...lip twitching.<BR/><BR/>Ok be serious now! I have no advice for you. I haven't spoke to my mom in 3 years. She tore up her parent card 30 someodd years ago. She is a bipolar, schitzophrenic who refuses to take meds.Mamahuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10731946745794016271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-53859772025170263302008-08-28T11:15:00.000-04:002008-08-28T11:15:00.000-04:00Jill,I got the comment and I thank you from the bo...Jill,<BR/>I got the comment and I thank you from the bottom of my heart, but I fear to tell you were not my "first", that was a loooooooong time ago (heh heh)Debzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06782022114303206069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-56249195389633468032008-08-28T11:08:00.000-04:002008-08-28T11:08:00.000-04:00Okay, I have the greatest mom in the world. Amelia...Okay, I have the greatest mom in the world. Amelia Bedelia can attest to it as well. I realize that we are not the norm, but may be perceived as such. My mom has been the backbone of our family since day one, the deep well of sound advice, and the glue that holds us together. The only complaint I have about her is that she is a worry wart and we make fun of her all the time for it. So, it's good jill jill bo billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08559834800523759760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-33262722622490746972008-08-28T11:01:00.000-04:002008-08-28T11:01:00.000-04:00Julie,Thank you! I would be honored.Georgie,Again...Julie,<BR/>Thank you! I would be honored.<BR/><BR/>Georgie,<BR/>Again it's just nice to know I WAS NOT/AM NOT alone.<BR/><BR/>Tiffany,<BR/>I hope that's not the case. Adopted or not, he deserves to be loved just as much.Debzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06782022114303206069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-83831639657825188622008-08-28T10:57:00.000-04:002008-08-28T10:57:00.000-04:00I'm very close to my mother. Although I kind of se...I'm very close to my mother. Although I kind of see (Imay be wrong) that she has a preference of my nephew over my son (who is adopted). She would never admit it but when I talk to her on the phone all she talks about is my nephew. She also watches him everyday after school while she only sees my son once a week when I bring him. Maybe I'm just sensitive but I NEVER want my son to feel like he isTiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02441772698743607230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-25216463667531569692008-08-28T10:55:00.000-04:002008-08-28T10:55:00.000-04:00Happy Birthday Deb!It's hard for me to talk much ...Happy Birthday Deb!<BR/><BR/>It's hard for me to talk much about my mom and I's relationship alll I can really say is I am trying my BEST to NOT be the kind of mother she was-I want a better mother/daughter relationship with my girl beans...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13755834803574964576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-8755662621466523492008-08-28T10:44:00.000-04:002008-08-28T10:44:00.000-04:00Fabulous post, lady. You can guest blog for me an...Fabulous post, lady. You can guest blog for me any day.<BR/><BR/>Happy birthday, beautiful!!!!Julie Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01688319872727995846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-11135123408210312272008-08-28T10:25:00.000-04:002008-08-28T10:25:00.000-04:00thanks Brig - its nice to know I am not the only o...thanks Brig - its nice to know I am not the only one who has a fragile relationship with her mom. i have, at times, thought that it might just be me/us - so nice to hear its not.Debzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06782022114303206069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15309561.post-64782789861090701032008-08-28T09:56:00.000-04:002008-08-28T09:56:00.000-04:00I'm not sure what the norm is for mother-daughter ...I'm not sure what the norm is for mother-daughter relationships or if there even is one. Like you, I can only talk about it from the daughter perspective and like you my relationship with my mother is complicated (maybe that's the norm) and tenuous. She was not an alcoholic while I was growing up (although she had many other issues) but is one now and it definitely has come between us. My Brigindohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05499279435958916161noreply@blogger.com